Brandon Ives

There is an interesting article in Newsweek concerning the new face of masculinity. The message on the cover says it all, Man Up! But what does it mean to man up?

Does it mean that the “path to masculinity is paved with girly jobs and dirty diapers?” It may seem that way. The authors do suggest that a return to stereotypical ruggedness and machismo will not save masculinity. But in a fair minded response, Albert Mohler reminds us that becoming less macho doesn’t necessarily make things better.

“Today’s men are likely to be more nurturing, but they are also statistically less faithful. They may be changing more diapers, but they are also more likely to change spouses. Men must be encouraged and expected to be both faithful fathers and faithful husbands. Otherwise, any society is in big trouble.”

I would add, fathers and husbands should still provide for their families, work hard and provide servant leadership in the home. Yet, grow more faithful in being present, nurturing and loving. Men do not have to crawl back into the cave to return to masculinity but we shouldn’t expect them to look like women either. Gender equality doesn’t mean that men and women are the same. It means they are equally valued, respected and protected.

The one issue that everyone should agree upon is the face of manhood is changing. I have a three year old son and I pray that he will one day become a faithful young man. If that means being in a traditionally female job, that’s great! As long as he is providing for his family and serving God faithfully.

Labels: Albert Mohler, Leadership, Men, Newsweek

How many times have you encountered a boss or leader who constantly takes back ownership of the work they give others?

Part of leading people is leaving them alone. Leaders are not project managers, in fact they are not managers. Now managers may be leaders, but they are not the same.

Why? Because leaders give over responsibility, control and rewards to others. They empower their followers to grow, to learn, to make mistakes and to take the credit.

One of the worst mistakes a leader can make is reclaiming power or micromanaging others. These actions burden employees and volunteers. These actions stunt growth, cause paranoia and expand fear.

I always desire to jump in and take over. But I know that there are far bigger costs, than others mistakes. What are the bigger costs? Fear of action, anxiety about decisions and a loss of creativity.

Making mistakes is part of life and helping others grow through mistakes is part of leadership.