Boundaries
Behaviors have consequences. When we love and care for the people around us, we will have closer and more fruitful relationships. If we choose to sow selfishness, greed, idleness or anger, we will inevitably reap poverty, failure, loneliness and isolation. These are the natural consequences of our behavior.
Dr. Henry Could, in his book Boundaries, advises us that rescuing people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless. He continues by saying,
“This happens a lot with parents and children. Parents often yell and nag, instead of allowing their children to reap the natural consequences of their behavior. Parenting with love and limits, with warmth and consequences, produces confident children who have a sense of control over their lives.”
I wonder who I help render powerless by overstepping important boundaries.
Labels: Boundaries, Christian Living, Dr. Henry Cloud
